COPE BETTER IN 6 STEPS. The Adaptive and Non Adaptive Coping Thoughts is a problem solving approach and practical tool you can use to help you face adversities and challenges. You can learn and grow your resilience. That's right. A good resilience practice can greatly help you to adapt to life-changing and stressful situations. At the same time, encourage personal growth. Positive emotions like gratitude, joy and peace, and negative emotions like sadness, anger and regret influence our ability to be resilient. Therefore, adapting more positive emotions will expand your focus, thereby supporting you with more creative ways to grapple with your problems. STEP 1 Describe a challenging situation. What is the challenge you are facing? Write it down so you understand it clearly. Step 2 Observe your thoughts about the situation. Spend time alone taking stock of your thoughts and opinion about the situation you